Why do we tend to destroy things we can’t comprehend? Is it fear? Ignorance? Because we don’t understand something, it’s perfectly acceptable to some folks to condemn and hate what’s different, or what doesn’t necessarily live up to their standards. A lot of time people do it without even thinking – its an automatic responce. Even those who are open minded can react, then look back and see their mistakes in judgment. I do this and so does most everyone else at some point or another.
We have the ‘fight or flight’ instinct. When you hear that term, you generally think about scary or life-threatening situations, you don’t think about it in simple everyday life. You come across a video of a cute girl, talking about something you have never heard of but you are curious to learn the meaning of. You hit “Play” and – what IS this stuff?? Has she LOST her MIND?!? What about her husband?? You mean he’s compliant with this debauchery!?? No, no, no, NO! This is WRONG! It goes against everything I’ve been taught about how life is supposed to work! Now the key moment… do you navigate away from the page? OR, do you decide to defend your stance on the subject (even though your opinion wasn’t necessary)? Because by saying nothing, you feel that you’re condoning these actions…?
Sure… that may be a bit extreme, but it happens almost every day. Not just in my life, either. I get “attacked” or berated all the time because people think what I do is wrong. Almost every word rolls off my back, I don’t buy in to their negativity. :) I do get lots of messages from people asking why I put up with this, and why is everyone coming after me. I don’t see it that way most of the time, unless it’s just blantant threats or attacks. Most of the time I am pretty easy going. I know that this is reality and in it some people just have problems with others. It can be something they were taught or just came into but I try not to judge them back as they most likely have a reason for being this way.
My point is, people are really quick to get offended or upset at ideas or situations they don’t understand. Things they have no control over, something that doesn’t involve them a bit – yet they feel the need to speak up on the situation. If it’s something they don’t agree with they feel the need to lash out. For some it is hard to accept the fact that not everyone lives the same lifestyle or has the same likes and dislikes. Would you shun someone for preferring dogs as pets over cats? What if they chose to cut their hair really short or dye it a bright pink? Perhaps one would like to become a vegetarian! Would it matter to anyone? Of course not, those are personal choices. A persons choice to do something has no real effect on you… Right?
So in trying to better understand, I ask why do people get so upset by the fact that I am a Cuckoldress? It is because we’re talking about something sexual? Does the taboo nature of particluar fetishes cause people to want to speak out more? They feel this is more important than what type of hairstyle I prefer?
Sometimes I can see why the cuckolding community is so small, or comprised of many that are only living out fantasies. If you’re real about what you choose to do in your sexual life you risk ridicule. Resentment. Confusion. It’s easier to live in a fantasy world than to put yourself out there “in real life” and get hurt.
Why would would you put yourself or your spouse on the line? I know that when I started to learn about this lifestyle, I was concerned. It seems that out of everything I would read (Wiki articles, message boards, and one blog in particular), most of it was fantasy. Only ONE piece of REAL information, real life accounts of this lifestyle, came from the blog. After a lot of thought, and realizing that my cuckolding experiences wouldn’t be just like everyone else’s, I chose to start a blog of my own. Not telling people how to live their life, or how to live my lifestyle, but basically just telling our story. Where we come from, what we want to do… we’re just two people in this world, telling our tales. There is so very LITTLE helpful information out there on cuckolding, and if I could give some random person a little clarity, what’s the harm? Turns out, this blog is gaining popularity. People come here to get some real information on cuckolding, or other opinions on the lifestyle they’re interested in. Cuckolding itself is also gaining popularity, and having a few reliable resources out there to lean on is a much needed reality.
Please, do not let others get you down. What you are doing here is very important to cuckolds like myself. I am at the start of this journey, and while was very hesistant and nervous at first, I am more and more confidant with your information and a great bull.
Jinxy, i love your blog and youtube channel. Its so great to be able to hear the advice straight from the source. Don’t let those assclowns get to you. They have an opinion on everything. Usually nobody cares. I think its jealousy perhaps… Regardless you have way more fans than haters, that much is certain. Chin up!
I think it’s an interesting question. If my wife and I were into swinging or domination and people found out I guess many wouldn’t approve but it wouldn’t be the end of the world. But cuckolding is arguably a combination of those two things and I think something about the combination would freak people out. Maybe because with swinging they could say “it’s just about sex” and with domination “it’s just a mental thing, it’s about fantasy and mind games”.
With cuckolding I guess people could see it as the wife emotionally and sexually abandoning and betraying her husband, so they see her as behaving wrongly. Then the husband, instead of going crazy, is fine with it. So they see him as behaving in the wrong way as well. So they feel that everyone involved is obviously wrong and crazy.
If someone said they and their partner both enjoyed sex with random strangers or beating each other or whatever I don’t think people would feel the need to say “you shouldn’t enjoy that”. I think the problem is that this lifestyle seems so obviously crazy to some people that they feel the need to point it out.
If they knew more about it maybe they wouldn’t feel that way. I don’t really care. I think people should be free to do whatever they want as long as they are not harming anyone else. There are some people who are into the cuckolding lifestyle and that is apparently crazy. Well, whatever, but there are probably millions of people lying in bed next to each other tonight who aren’t telling their partner what they want in bed and will spend their whole life not doing what they like for whatever reason. I think that’s a lot crazier.
Anyway, I saw the comment that upset you and I wouldn’t worry about it at all. That person has probably forgotten all about it already and so should you. For what it is worth, you have been a huge help to my wife and I and you were there when I needed someone sensible to talk to but had assumed that there wasn’t anyone. It is because it is so difficult to talk about this with anyone that it is so important people like you are there.
How come not everybody be turned on by Jinxy?
as a new member of your site and this blog I want to thank you for being so blod to discuss and show your cuckolding exploits. I have had my cuckold husband blog for a few years now but not quite as brave as youa are….we tend to be a bit more anonymous….but cuckolding has been around for centuries and it is not going anywhere, people like us have just brought it to the general public….again thanks
Well I can see what your saying Jinxy, most of this is a fantasy for me I’ve actively sought women that shared the same interest as me but I got burned more than a couple of times. For one it turns out a lot of them are faking or they freak out when you mention it to them.
I think also that people simply don’t understand it like S&M, pantyhose fetish, etc it all seems weird to them. They fear it also because it threatens their world. They think that you don’t love your spouse and like to hurt him for example which is simply untrue at least in my opinion.
I watched your video with you and your spouse and found that you actually genuinely care and love your husband and he does you. I guess outsiders simply had a hard time understanding why you don’t simply leave him and go and do this whole thing without him. My answer has always been because they simply fail to understand that most likely it wouldn’t be the same and it would fizzle out without your partner.
Also sex is a lot more than just a physical thing for some people like a cuckold for example its the mental stimulation that fulfills them and the physical simply isn’t enough. Anyway I hope this makes sense… Keep doing what you do and forget those short sided idiots.
Hi Jinxy,
You make me horny and uncomfortable, which is to say you are perfect as you are.
Best,
scott
Mrs. Kelly’s Playhouse
I have some news that also relates to this topic. My wife has gotten in touch with an old boyfriend of hers, and they have planned on meeting for a day all by themselves, which will in turn make me a cuckold, finally.
Now the way this relates is that my wife has told him that I’m ok with it, and he has nothing to worry about. But he is a bit puzzled. He automatically thinks “Is this guy setting his wife up somehow?” or other similar questions.
It is very hard to convince him that I am obedient to my wife in every way, even something so extreme like this. But I will soon talk to him and try to reassure him that we as cuckolds are a different breed, but he need not be alarmed.
I wanted to touch something that occurred to me why so many might find the whole cuckolding lifestyle a turn off or even annoying. One that has been touched before is the whole denying aspect of having sex with your spouse. Erotic to some most would look at this as stupid or even self destructive.
I mean I’ve talked to people online and in person who’ve asked me the point of the whole thing. Why not go and divorce your spouse and find someone else to spend time with? I mean you obviously don’t enjoy physically being with the person so why not go marry someone one else.
I’ve even found myself asking myself the same question whenever people bring that up. Mainly because they have a solid valid point. Yet I also realize that its more complicated than simply denying your husband, it goes to controlling your partner.
Also the denial is a turn on and can lead the couple to test their marriage in ways that go far beyond the norm or typical understanding of a relationship. However I think most people feel that this isn’t healthy and can ultimately lead to destruction in a relationship.
To say the least if I was never allowed inside my ‘wife’ as it may be I think i would actually want a divorce. I wouldn’t stay with someone that didn’t want to be physically intimate with me. However on a fantasy perspective as far as being denied a month or months or so, I would probably be willing to do. Forever I wouldn’t. I guess even I have my limits.